Mend a Broken Heart
When we are in the midst of pain from a breakup or loss, many of us may bounce back and forth between the different emotional pains and spend too much time overthinking on the 'what if's. It might feel like you are stuck and have no options but to stay locked in your house scooping up spoonfuls of your favorite ice cream, playing the 'what if I had spent more time with them' scenarios over and over in your mind, or 'maybe I should have listened to her more', etcetera. If you feel like you are riding this post-relationship roller coaster, maybe it is time to mend that broken heart.
They always say that time will mend a broken heart. While that is very true, there are things you can do to help the process along. Let's start by making two lists. One list will be the emotional hurts you are feeling. The other will be a list of the unwanted painful thoughts that keep running through your head. If you can't decide which list something goes on, just pick the one that seems the best fit. It is not that important to get the lists perfect. It is, however, important to acknowledge all that you are feeling and thinking and to get it on paper.
Choose some stones that will help to shift those thoughts and feelings. Some rock books have an index in the back that make it very easy to look up different emotions and the rocks that can help. The choices of stones may be extensive, so try to narrow your choice of rocks down to just a few that feel right for you. Many rocks can do double duty for more than one emotion as well.
Obtain an Angel Love Shell and very small tumbled stones or chips of the stones you picked. You will need either a rubber band or glue for sealing the shell. Notice that the Angel Love Shell easily comes apart into two pieces like a broken heart. It is not as easy to fit it back together but it can be fitted and a small click will often tell you it's connected.
Your left hand is associated with your right brain and controls emotions. Your right hand is associated with your left brain and is more logical. To do our broken heart ceremony we will use the Angel Love shell and the stones to bring these two brain halves together and to see what clarity this may bring.
Start by making sure all your small stones will fit into the Angel Love shell when it is closed. If they do not fit, you will need smaller or fewer stones. Take the time as necessary to find the combination that fits in the Angel Love shell. You can use this time to consider what emotion or thought each stone is helping you to address.
Divide your stones into one pile for the stones you intended to help your emotional hurts and another pile for those to help quiet all the painful, repetitive thoughts you are having. Take one half of the shell and the stones to help your emotions in your left hand. Put the other half of the shell and the stones for thoughts in your right hand. Sit someplace calm and comfortable and hold your hands open with palms up in front of you.
Close your eyes and contemplate on your palms and what is in them. Concentrate on your left hand and feel all the emotional hurts. Try to call up some good emotions or some positive lessons now understood. Go through all the emotions you can feel and let them pool in your left hand with the stones. Repeat this process with your right hand, considering all the wayward thoughts that come to mind. Let the 'what if's run rampant, but again allow in some positive things you may think about. Put all your mental worries in your right hand.
Now focus on feeling both hands and just notice any sensations. Is one hand heavier, colder, more tingly, or otherwise feeling different? There is no need to write these observations down or even to remember them - Just notice. When you feel you have noticed all that you can, start to slowly bring your hands together, being careful not to drop the stones. This does not need to be a straight path to each other. Your hands may want to travel around a bit on their journey together. Allow this if it happens. Slowly bring them together until both hands are open and your little fingers are next to each other.
Slowly rotate your hands to bring your palms together, being careful to keep the shell halves and the stones in your hands. When your palms have met, lace your fingers together and feel the bond that this makes with your two hands that have become one unit with the shell and stones inside. When you really feel this unity, take a moment to notice what you are feeling or thinking. You may have an unexpected answer, perhaps to a question you hadn't thought to ask.
Now open your eyes and notice your hands bonded together. Slowly open them up and place all the stones inside the shell halves. Put the shell together. Really look at the shell. Notice how you feel. Do you have any additional healthy thoughts or answers?
To temporarily hold your newly created Mended Heart shell closed, you can wrap a rubber band around the shell to hold it together. You can also make it more permanent by gluing the two halves together (You may still need the rubber band until the glue dries).
If you feel you’ve found some good answers and that your ceremony is complete, then you are finished. If you want to do more with this ceremony, you can wire wrap your shell or do macramé to create a hanging talisman. Another powerful way to continue this ceremony is to use your Mended Heart shell as a center stone in a Sacred Stone Grid Layout that you create to help manifest the new things you want in your life. You may also just set the Mended Heart shell talisman on your altar or bedside table where you can think on it regularly.
When your broken heart has mended fully and you no longer need your talisman, you may disassemble your temporary talisman. If you've glued your talisman for permanence, you can keep it in a safe place or gift your mended heart to a trusted friend for safekeeping.